These days, so many of our relationships exist virtually. We use social media platforms like Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook to share good and bad news, opinions, gossip and vent our feelings. At its best, social media can make the world feel smaller as you meet new people and keep in touch with old friends and loved ones, no matter if they live here in the Columbus area or on the other side of the planet.
Going through a divorce can be one of the most painful and aggravating experiences of your life. It can be tempting to talk about it on your social media or react to your ex’s posts. But doing that can easily backfire, potentially hurting your financial settlement and share of child custody.
When a Facebook post ends up in divorce court
You should assume that your ex and their divorce lawyer will see everything you post online. And if they can use it as leverage, they will. For example, posting about a new car you bought might feel good at the moment. But if you claimed to the court that you had limited financial resources, your ex could claim that you hid assets, which can become a huge problem for you. Or arguing with your spouse over who is the better parent is not going to convince the judge to grant you sole custody.
How to use social media during a divorce
If you cannot stay off social media until your divorce is final, take precautions. Put your privacy settings up to the highest level, and make sure your accounts are “friends” with people you trust. Ask them not to tag you in photos and videos for a while. Keep your posts positive, don’t discuss details of your divorce, and avoid saying anything critical about your ex. And resist the urge to ask people who are still “friends” with your ex’s social media to spy on their accounts for you.
Social media is a massive part of society, but taking a break to focus on your divorce, mental health and your children can help you in the long run.