No one wants to fight, especially at the end of a marriage. You've both supported each other in the past and the idea that you'd both begin to tear each other down during a divorce isn't something you'd be happy with.
The good news is that couples who are willing to work together can do well even during times of conflict. For example, if you and your spouse decide to divorce and largely agree on how to divide all your assets, you may only need a few mediation sessions to resolve any conflict you have.
Mediation is helpful for those who are willing to negotiate
If you are willing to negotiate with your spouse but are unable to come to an agreement without help, then you and your spouse may do well in mediation. A mediator is a third party with no vested interest in your case. They will help guide you to a solution that you're both happy with so that you are less likely to have further conflicts during your divorce.
Mediators can also help you by showing you ways to reduce conflict and work together so that you can resolve your own conflicts without having to go to mediation. This is essential in cases where you and your spouse have children who will need to go from one home to the other. Being able to communicate is necessary for parents, even if they no longer want to be married.
Our site has more on divorce mediation and how it can be of help for people like yourselves.