You have decided that you need to tell your spouse you want to get a divorce. Maybe you've tried to make the marriage work, but you know there's simply nothing left.
Even though you are set on ending the marriage, you still need to tell your spouse. What is the best way to do this? Here are a few tips that can help:
- Stay calm. This should not be an argument or a fight. It should simply be a chance to firmly but gently inform your spouse of what you want.
- Pick the right time. Avoid negative situations. For instance, do not yell about wanting the divorce right after an argument. It is also important to avoid major events in either of your lives, such as the loss of a job.
- Prepare yourself first. Think it over. Make sure it is what you want. Consider the logistics of moving on and becoming single again. Asking for a divorce should not be an impulse decision.
- Do not worry about every last detail. You do not have to talk about child custody rights or property division at this time. Just try to break the news and give your spouse time to digest it.
- Be prepared for a negative reaction. Your spouse may not be happy. Even if you know it's the right thing to do, don't expect them to feel the same as you. Be ready for questions, surprise and an emotional response.
After you tell your spouse that it is time to split up, make sure you fully understand all of the legal steps you'll need to take.